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We love Holland.


Welcome to Holland

Emily Perl Kingsley.

I am often asked to describe the experience of raising a child with a disability – to try to help people who have not shared that unique experience to understand it, to imagine how it would feel. It’s like this….

When you’re going to have a baby, it’s like planning a fabulous vacation trip – to Italy. You buy a bunch of guide books and make your wonderful plans. The Coliseum. The Michelangelo David. The gondolas in Venice. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian. It’s all very exciting.

After months of eager anticipation, the day finally arrives. You pack your bags and off you go. Several hours later, the plane lands. The stewardess comes in and says, “Welcome to Holland.”

“Holland?!?” you say. “What do you mean Holland?? I signed up for Italy! I’m supposed to be in Italy. All my life I’ve dreamed of going to Italy.”

But there’s been a change in the flight plan. They’ve landed in Holland and there you must stay.

The important thing is that they haven’t taken you to a horrible, disgusting, filthy place, full of pestilence, famine and disease. It’s just a different place.

So you must go out and buy new guide books. And you must learn a whole new language. And you will meet a whole new group of people you would never have met.

It’s just a different place. It’s slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you’ve been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around… and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills… and Holland has tulips. Holland even has Rembrandts.

But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy… and they’re all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there. And for the rest of your life, you will say “Yes, that’s where I was supposed to go. That’s what I had planned.”

And the pain of that will never, ever, ever, ever go away… because the loss of that dream is a very very significant loss.

But… if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn’t get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things … about Holland.

©1987 by Emily Perl Kingsley. All rights reserved.

Written by Donna

24 Apr 2006 at 239pm

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Papa & Matty talking books.


Written by Donna

24 Apr 2006 at 237pm

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Photo series: Diaper boy, big smiles

Matty loves to situate himself into the top corner crook of the couch.

I caught him just before his bath, so we starting singing and he started giggling madly. My singing usually does that to him.


He has many, many nice white teeth and he loves to show ’em off.

Written by Donna

24 Apr 2006 at 235pm

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Big swing!


He even figured out how to pump his legs. Sorta.


Written by Donna

24 Apr 2006 at 229pm

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Some funny hair.


Matt thinks so too.


Written by Donna

12 Apr 2006 at 1112pm

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With weather like this…

…everyday can be a park day. We’ve been avoiding baby gym in favor of the great outdoors, more sunshine, less cold germs for sure. Matty hasn’t had a runny nose in almost a week! Wonders!

All this park play…


…deserves an afternoon nap in the our big bed. Comfy.


Written by Donna

12 Apr 2006 at 1111pm

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Mike got a haircut!

We likey.


Written by Donna

12 Apr 2006 at 1108pm

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